FREE FAMILY CAREGIVING SUMMIT: “NAME IT; KNOW ITS MANY FACES”

Wednesday, April 30, 2014 | 8:30 am – 5 pm
Hosted by: New York Academy of Medicine
1216 Fifth Avenue (use the 103rd Street entrance)
New York, NY 10029
Sponsored and EmblemHealth’s NYC Partnership for Family Caregiving Corps
Created by: with Fordham University Graduate School of Social Service:
Be the Evidence Project
Sponsoring William A. Gillespie, MD, Chief Medical Officer, EmblemHealth
NYAM Beth Finkel, State Director, AARP
Fellows: Dr. Tina Maschi, Associate Professor, Fordham University
Rev. Gregory Johnson, Director, Care for the Family Caregiver, EmblemHealth

Who Should Medical professionals, social workers, clergy, health care ministries,
Attend: family caregivers, students, government leaders and the general public.
We are all in this together!
ALL ARE WELCOME! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
There is no charge to attend. However, an RSVP IS REQUIRED, so register online today at
http://www.nyam.org/2014familycaregivingsummit. To register by phone or if you have questions, please contact Tina Maschi at 1-212-636-6640.
Join us for this great opportunity to learn about the tools and resources available to you.
Continental breakfast, lunch and a wine reception will be served.

http://www.nyam.org/events/2014/2014-04-30.html

The Tao Te Ching: Verse Sixty-One

The large country is like the lowest river
The converging point of the world
The receptive female of the world
The female always overcomes the male with serenity
Using serenity as the lower position

Thus if the large country is lower than the small country
Then it can take the small country
If the small country is lower than the large country
Then it can be taken by the large country
Thus one uses the lower position to take
The other uses the lower position to be taken
The large country only wishes to gather and protect people
The small country only wishes to join and serve people
So that both obtain what they wish
The larger one should assume the lower position

                                                                                        Lao Tzu

Our energetic bodies are composed of both Masculine (Yang) and Feminine (Yin) Energies.  These terms should not be confused with gender (male/female) but rather represent the characteristics, qualities and temperaments of active and passive ways of being. Trying to maintain balance in our lives often seems unattainable because we do not know how to access or do not dare to access the Divine Feminine (Yin) Energy contained within each of us. This inability leaves you stuck in a predominate state of Yang Energy; which is a state of action, aggression and drive that is exhausting.

The sixty-first verse of the Tao Te Ching instructs that strength lies with the entity in the lower, receptive position. This is traditionally known as the passive position taken by Feminine (Yin) Energy. However, Feminine/Yin Energy is not passive in the sense of do nothing; it is passive in the sense of Subtle, Slow but Steady and Strong.

Yin Energy is Mother Earth. It is fluid and accommodates without yielding the essence of itself to anyone. True, Mother Earth may give way to storms, floods, tornadoes and other challenges posed by the very Yang Energy of Mother Nature but Mother Earth reshapes and never loses herself in the process. This is the lesson contained within this verse of the Tao. Never confuse accommodation with surrender.

My beloved Tri-State areas of New York, New Jersey and Connecticut are digging out from the very Yang Energy of Super Storm Sandy. As we recover let us not add more Yang Energy to the mix. Let us promote a balance by embracing all that is good and strong within us: compassion, patience and optimism.

The Tao Te Ching: Verse Thirty-Nine

Those that attained oneness since ancient times:
The sky attained oneness and thus clarity
The earth attained oneness and thus tranquility
The gods attained oneness and thus divinity
The valley attained oneness and thus abundance
The myriad things attained oneness and thus life
The rulers attained oneness and became the standard for the world
These all emerged from oneness

The sky, lacking clarity, would break apart
The earth, lacking tranquility, would erupt
The gods, lacking divinity, would vanish
The valley, lacking abundance, would wither
Myriad things, lacking life, would be extinct
The rulers, lacking standard, would be toppled

Therefore, the honored uses the lowly as basis
The higher uses the lower as foundation
Thus the rulers call themselves alone, bereft, and unworthy Is this not using the lowly as basis? Is it not so? Therefore, the ultimate honor is no honor

Do not wish to be shiny like jade. Be dull like rocks                             

                                                                                        Lao Tzu

People often comment on how small the world is now that we are all connected by the phone, TV and the Web. But has all this technology really joined us together? I believe this is one of the great ironies of our times. Everyday someone figures out some way to communicate slicker and quicker but I ask; are we listening to each other or just talking at each other?

The lesson in Verse Thirty-Nine is a gentle reminder that we are all part of the same Whole. It is our birth right to feel this connection and draw great comforted and strengthened from this fact however; it is our nature to want to distinguish ourselves and establish our own identity.

The Universe will always support the vision and accomplishments of the individual as long as that accomplishment does not lead to isolation or subjugation of others. Acknowledging our local and global Interdependence is the key. Our future success as a planet depends on resisting our inclination to build barriers or focus on those things that keep us apart.

It is vital to understand that Isolation is one of the primary symptoms of an addiction. Whether it is an addiction to a substance, addiction to dualistic/judgmental thinking or an addiction to hate, power, or greed; the symptom of Isolation is very real and very toxic. So stay vigilant. If you feel yourself drifting and losing your sensing of citizenship to the Whole stop, re-evaluate and reconnect.

Imagine there’s no heaven. It’s easy if you try
No hell below us, above us only sky
Imagine all the people living for today

Imagine there’s no countries. It isn’t hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for and no religion too
Imagine all the people living life in peace
You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us and the world will be as one

                                                                                  John Lennon 1971