The Delicate Balance: Patience

feather and stone balance

Inspired by the ancient book of wisdom; The Tao Te Ching: Verse Fifteen

The Tao masters of antiquity, subtle wonders through mystery
Depths that cannot be discerned because one cannot discern them
Therefore one is forced to describe the appearance Hesitant, like crossing a wintry river; cautious, like fearing four neighbors
Solemn, like a guest; loose, like ice about to melt Genuine, like plain wood, open, like a valley Opaque, like muddy water Who can be muddled yet desist in stillness gradually become clear?
Who can be serene yet persist in motion gradually come alive? One who holds this Tao does not wish to be overfilled
Because one is not overfilled; therefore one can preserve and not create anew

Lao Tzu

 

It is hard to image life 500 years before the time of Jesus as hectic. Yet, it must have been. Why else would Lao Tzu compose a verse of the Tao Te Ching reminding everyone to slow down and be mindful of all that is around you?

I am concerned about the pace of life today. I am concerned that I can’t keep up. I’m concerned that I am not certain I want to keep up. I am concerned that I arrive at work all too often not remembering the ride in the car. Lately, I am troubled by the thought that I am not walking my path but running down it at such a speed that I am going to fly by my intended destination.

Slowing down is not something that comes easily to me. I am venturing that it does not come easily to most professional or family caregivers. The thought does drift through my conscious mind every now and then. Customarily, I ignore it. I continue at the same pace or faster. I ignore the signals that I need to rest until the Universeslaps me in the back of my head with sickness, the flare up of an old knee injury or even a fender bender and asks, “Do you hear me now?”

Is living and working under a sense of urgency necessary to accomplish anything meaningful in this mundane world? Do I really need two phones and several other Internet accessible devices to be productive? In an age when we are all expected to be outcome oriented is it sacrilegious to be concerned about the process and the people involved in that process? Is the journey no longer of any value? Is it just about the destination? I believe that it is possible to be active, engaged and yet calm and patient. Now if I could only figure out how to manifest that belief.

I think the first step is to tell my ego, the voice of my insecurities, to shut up. Enough with the relentless thoughts of doom and retribution for venturing to consider that there may be an alternative to living in the fast lane. You can have a great work ethic without having to make yourself sick to convince yourself or anyone else that you are capable of achieving much.

Embracing your Yin/Feminine energy is also a good place to start. Till some soil, plant your hopes and dreams, and watch them take root. Nurture them to be yielding and adaptable to the winds of impermanence. Be patient and receptive to whatever shows up. I realize that is like asking water from the moon but try to sway. Be patient and aware.

I honor the law of attraction. I honestly believe that you can create the life you envision but remember it is not the law of insistence. All will come when it is supposed to. Nothing could or will ever change this. I sometimes think that when prayers are answered it is because you’ve somehow aligned your request with the intended timetable for that manifestation.

Slow down. Don’t be hurried or harried. Breathe. Look around you and be in each step to the best you are able. See the synchronicity of life. You will be amazed how your life will flow to you and how you will flow with it.

2 thoughts on “The Delicate Balance: Patience

  1. “Slowing down is not something that comes easily to me. I am venturing that it does not come easily to most professional or family caregivers.” – I think most people can empathize and agree with this statement! Beautiful post and something I definitely don’t practice (even though I know I should!) I have found it crucial during my caregiving day to take 5-10 minutes away from the situation and tune out (get away from my PC, phone, TV, Ipad) and just be in the moment. Being a caregiver is so difficult and I am always looking for tips and advice from others going through similar situations. I recently came across a book that I have been recommending to everyone: “The Caregiving Trap” by author Pamela Wilson (http://pameladwilson.com/book/). The author is a leading expert in the caregiving industry both professionally and personally and she provides insight for both the caregiver and the recipient in this amazing book. This book helps to keep your emotions in check and helps with really difficult situations such as setting up boundaries (it is so easy to get burnt out from this!),she helps build confidence in yourself again, and she explains all the personal, financial and health risks involved. She even gives scenarios (many that I could relate with) and realistic options of what to do.
    I think you and your readers will really benefit from this guide to caregiving. Thanks again for the great article 🙂

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