The 9 Most Damaging Lies We Tell Ourselves Daily guest Post by LOLLY DASKAL

Sometimes the biggest obstacles are the ones we create and tell ourselves about the world around us

Our thoughts are more powerful than we realize, governing our expectations, our interactions, and ultimately our ability to be successful.

It’s easy for delusions and lies to take root and grow, and left unchecked, they can do serious harm.

Do any of these sound familiar?

1. I have to be perfect.

Even if perfection were achievable, it’s not a healthy goal; as we discussed here not long ago, perfectionism can hold you back. Remember that mistakes are part of being human–and sometimes they’re our most valuable teachers.

2. My life is harder than anyone else’s.

Everyone faces difficulty and crisis. It is in dealing with every challenge, problem, anddifficulty that we are able to learn and grow.

3. If I ignore it, it will go away.

Procrastination, magical thinking, and rescue fantasies may help us avoid hard truths for a while. But reality always catches up, and the longer you wait the worse it becomes.

4. I’m too young, or I’m too old.

I recently wrote about accomplishing great things at any age. At 5, Mozart was already competent on keyboard and violin, and at 76, Nelson Mandela became president of South Africa. The truth is you are never too young or too old.

5. I’m just not the happy type.

There will always be difficulties, but we determine how we handle them. Remember, happiness is not something we are; it is something we become through our choices.

6. I don’t judge people.

We all judge people. Researchers say we arrive at our first conclusion in less than a second. In some cases, it’s ourselves whom we’re judging, seeing how we measure up and fit in.

7. If I follow my heart, everything will work out.

Following your heart is good, but it should never override intellect and intuition. Aim for balance.

8. I don’t have a choice.

We always have a choice. It’s easy to blame others, or fate, for our outcomes, but accepting responsibility for yourself and your actions is an essential part of your humanity.

9. My worth is determined by my work.

No single facet of your life determines your worth. It’s spoken in every action and word you undertake. It’s who you are.

At worst, lying to ourselves can destroy us. At best, it can make life more difficult.

Let’s really think about it.

What lies do you tell yourself or see others telling themselves?

How can you counteract them?

LOLLY DASKAL is the President and CEO of Lead From Within

2 thoughts on “The 9 Most Damaging Lies We Tell Ourselves Daily guest Post by LOLLY DASKAL

  1. I also think that the concept of the””oh, i would NEVER let that happen to me”” fits in with judging people. No one is immune.In the blink of an eye a wrong word said off the cuff,, a seemingly innocent mistake, a momentary lapse of good judgement and your life , as you knew it could turn on a dime.We should be ever vigilant and remember what we were taught in chemistry lab way back when,””For every action, there is a reaction”” ( And consequences)

  2. i have nursed for 34 year in L&D, loving withy heart & soul every moment. Now, I am 62 yrs old, tried to change clinical areas less demanding physical, working in an ambulatory care center, mostly PACU, but I think I am doing a good job, but find our -not from a supervisor-, but co-worker, that I am considered lazy, slow, & “make mistakes”. ( No mistakes called to my attention.) I love my work. I treasure & value my work. I am a professional, so proud of my work over all these years. I had to leave L&D, not of my free will, but it was my life. It has bee almost 8 yrs since leaving, I’m trying so very hard, but I have no peer or supervisor support, I kust don’t know where to turn. I have had 2 knee replacements, 12 hour shifts are so very difficult, but if I could find my “nitche” again, I would give it absolutely all. I just need a hospital to give me a chance. I guess I am too old. But I just need a chance. Is there anyone who could off words of encouragement, ideas on how to get a foot in the door? I’m hurting so badly over this, I’m scared. I’ve had counseling, but obviously no answer. I have a wonderful husband, 2 successful grown kids, & 4 beautiful young grandchildren. Please. I want them to be proud of me. My career won’t last too much longer, but I want to go out in a bang. I will work harder than anyone you would have ever known. I just need a chance. Advice? Please? I am an RN c BSN & all credentials.i just need I person in a position to give me a chance. Please advise, please.

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